Accessories are essential today, and leaving home without our cell phone (mobile), keys, or wallet is unthinkable.  In recent days, add a mask to that.  In the past, you made sure you had your keys and wallet before you went anywhere.  We all know the cell phone has been added to that list, and losing or forgetting your cell phone makes the world stop.

I recently had a conversation with a friend, and we talked about how we are so attached to our phones.  It’s understandable since our work, travel, and friends are all easily reached using our mobile devices.  Then we explored what if someone else was holding your phone.  If you let them hold your phone, what does that mean?  We agreed that if you give someone your cell phone, you have an element of trust with them, even if they hold it for a little while.  It’s like giving someone your credit card, the one with the higher limit, and letting them know you will be back in a few hours.  Why is that?  Is it an urgent text message or email that you might miss, or a post you are following is coming out?  Probably not.  We are used to having our cell phones with us all the time. 

When you ask someone to hold your cell phone, most notably in her purse, there is a high level of trust you give her and a step in building a relationship or expanding your friendship.  This also sends the message that you are present.  Text or app notifications can wait; if you happen to see the Amazon order, you won’t laugh at the Robotech Funkopop that arrives on Thursday.  If you have kids or are about to receive an important call, I get it.  Remember that there is value in unplugging from time to time and connecting with the people right in front of you.

Note: if you two have history, and it’s rocky, you may want to think twice about this.