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Over the weekend, at the grocery store, I met a nice woman. We had a light conversation, got to know each other better, and finished shopping. When we see someone we are interested in, we need to find a way to approach them and start the conversation. For some people, this is easy. However, for others, it can be challenging. Here are a few ways to start the conversation by giving her a nice compliment.
Shoes
Take a lesson from Spike Lee and Michael Jordan. Is it the shoes? It sure is in this case. Sneakers, flats, boots, and of course, high heels. Women love shoes just as much as men love sneakers. Think about it for a moment. Some women buy shoes for special occasions because they don’t have something they like currently in their closet. Why? Because shoes can make or break an outfit. Why wouldn’t a woman want to hear how well they matched a nice pair of shoes to their outfit? Remember that some women pay attention to a man’s shoes as much as their smile because how he takes care of his shoes can indicate how well he takes care of himself. So if she pays attention to your shoes, why not pay attention to hers?
Accessories
Women are the respected masters of accessories. They make an outfit that would typically seem bland come alive with careful coordination. Accessories express colors that would remain dormant and patterns that would blend into her ensemble. Belts can make her look thinner, move the waistline, and help her appear taller and even more curvaceous. Earrings and bracelets enhance an outfit and help her feel better about herself. People take pride in what they wear, and some spend time putting effort into what others will see, so take the time to notice the little things called accessories.
Hair
There is something specific about a woman’s hair. You can wear a new outfit, use the same accessories, and if the hair isn’t right, then the night isn’t right. Hairstyles are personal. Interestingly, men don’t notice when women cut their hair. Next time you talk with a female friend of yours, ask them if men usually notice a change in their hair, excluding a short haircut or a significant difference in hair color. If you know her or see her daily, notice the changes in her hair. This means you are paying attention to her, and that is important. Remember that everyone wants attention from someone. Just make sure the attention is respectable. Let her know that you like the change unless you don’t, then don’t mention it.
Nails
Along with hair, a woman’s nails are unnoticed by many, and the women who care for them do their best to ensure they look nice. Nails can take serious time to make sure they are right. If you see a woman, and they are maintained nicely, let her know. She will appreciate that you noticed and took the time to tell her. Be sincere and give no empty compliments, please. A few suggestions on how you share your appreciation of her nails are “I would have chosen that color myself” and “that color looks way better on you than me.” Gets a smile every time.
